Nearly every woman knows the feeling of fending for yourself. Despite the movements and conversations society has had about harassment, there are still men who think there's a spotlight on women alone in a public space. It's not easy to explain the entitlement women are up against when a man insists, and persists, in unwanted conversation. Especially to those who don't really want to hear about it. But a viral TikTok has perfectly captured what many women face on a daily basis.
20-year-old Kait Murdock's documentation of the harassment she faced when waiting for an Uber to take her home one night has gained a lot of traction on the popular social media platform. Murdock, a student from Canada, was leaving a birthday celebration when a man approached her. This wasn't her first harassment incident of the night, either. Previously another man kept trying to put his arm around her. Murdock says she "literally ran to the other side of the bar" when that instance occurred.
So when yet another man approached her while she was waiting for her ride, Murdock started recording. She originally wanted to just share the audio with some friends, but after the encounter, she turned to TikTok to take matters into her own hands.
In the video, the man who approached her asks her for "warmth" almost like she owes it to him. When she says she doesn't have any, he proceeds to hound her for information on whom she'd be willing to give this "warmth" to.
Murdock responds with, "To a friend," which doesn't put the man to any ease. He persists, asking for "boy girl" warmth. Which, excuse me, WHAT? Who even thinks that's something you should say out loud? Ugh, gross.
Murdock continued to reject him, in quite honestly, a polite manor. Yet the man still wandered off and called her degrading names anyway.
On sharing her experience, Murdock says, "I want people who maybe think that women ‘exaggerate’ their fear of men to think again and realize it’s real, and it happens to almost every single woman or girl that I know."
To all the women out there: you don't owe anyone "warmth" and you sure as heck don't owe anything to strange men who won't take no for an answer.